Jeez, a reviewer about a lesbian film writes,

It's a perfectly poised distance that she establishes, one that ironizes without alienating, observes without fetishizing.

For the record, all of my ironizing alienates, just as all my observations fetishize. A quick search for fetishize turns up this link:

the word "fetish" has a titanic frisson for contemporary theorists. Simply to employ it appears to induce rapture.

Dummies.